Michaela and Joshua

Michaela and Joshua's Engagement in Monterey, CA

How We Met

Well, we lived across the street from each other and our first official meeting was more of a rude awakening than romantic; him and his current roommate decided to come over and prank us girls. Keep in mind, I was born and raised in Southern California and the neighborhood I was newly residing in for college, was the farthest thing from what I considered and defined as safe. So when I peeked out from behind the curtain and saw two shadowy figures precariously attempting to hide, I freaked! He says I’m just jumpy, which is true, but don’t prank me in the ghetto if you’re wanting different results!! Anyways, that’s where it all started; a romantic journey pursuing emotional health and intelligent communication skills ,while countless laughs over an In n’ Out Double Double, which is the best burger in California if you’re confused and haven’t been graced with it’s greasy presence! I grew up being more conservative with my emotions while He was raised with a romantic Father who was in love with love, and he followed in His Dad’s footsteps, that’s for sure. The pursuit was a dream and the challenge to self discovery and vulnerable risk with giving my heart away is what makes what we’ve built today so special. I heard a quote once that said,”Great relationships don’t just happen; great relationships are built.” Looking back, I can fully support the truth of that statement.

Where to Propose in Monterey, CA

How He Asked

Over a year had passed since we officially started dating and it was the time. I didn’t know it, but he had a huge drawn out plan to pop the question; I’ll be honest, I was resistant through the process, but he was patient with me. All of our friends were getting engaged and he said he couldn’t just take me on some big trip, it would just be way too obvious and mediocre (he has this personal vendetta against mediocrity). So one weekend he told me we were going on a trip to this really cool bridge and that I needed to get my nails done. This guy was playing into my doubts and messing with my mind! I knew he would never just blatantly tell me, but I had to be prepared just in case he was actually going to propose! We get to the bridge and cautiously walk to the middle, and by that I mean, I held onto him for my dear life because it was covered in snow and I was fearing my almost certain impending death. He pulls two sets of headphones out of his pocket and tells me to put them in. We hold onto each other in front of this beautiful mountain landscape and just listen.

You know that feeling you get when driving down a beautiful road and you’re listening to the best song that just makes you dream and feel like you’re on top of the world? Well, that’s how it felt. I thought for sure he would propose at this point. Granted, our friends came with us and one of them is a videographer. He was taping the whole thing! Nope! The song ends; he takes the headphones and shoves them back in his pocket and that’s the end of the day! What makes this even worse was that a day after my hopes were given up he tells me that next weekend, we’re going to San Francisco. I was amused at the games he was playing with me, but also annoyed due to the fact that I knew I would be thinking about it all week. The next week comes and we go to Point Reyes, San Francisco, and Bernal Heights, each was dreamy, but they were all the same! A romantic song, a videographer, and no proposal! At one point as he was handing me the headphones I even said to him jokingly,” I don’t want to listen to another non-proposal song!” So, the next week comes and what do you know, we’re taking another trip! We’re going to Big Sur! Yippee!

Please tell me you can hear my sarcastic tone? We go, we get there and the road was closed to get into The spot he wanted to go to because of mudslides. We turned around in high hopes of another beautiful scenery we’d seen earlier. At this point I’ve become content with him not asking me so my expectancy is low. We pull over into this little cove in Monterey and walk our way down the trail to the ocean view. He finds a perfect spot overlooking the jagged cliffs and waves right on the edge. The headphones are there, the friends are there, the videographer is there. We just listen, the song is so feely and really encompasses a deeper part of this spontaneous cove in Monterey. This was the moment!!!! He held me and finally got down on one knee and asked me to marry him! I was in shock but said yes! He was in shock too because a minute later he asked me if I said yes or not! He was too zoned out to adequately hear my response!! It it gets even better! I look to my right and my family is casually walking down the trail to surprise me!!! I screamed and ran to their arms! The moment and story was perfect! We got it all on video and had the time of our lives!

This is what he said as to why he did it this way: “I wanted to do something that was larger than life and told a story of grand adventure and romanticism. We don’t take time and squeeze the color from our days anymore; our chances at being present are at odds with the future and the multitudinous allotment of distractions handed to us by our society. Seeing beauty isn’t enough; there’s so much more to be had. We listened to songs that made the landscape come alive; the ocean, the sand, the city, and the lights, they all had deeper meaning now. We were seeing with our ears and feeling with our hearts what was always there, but rarely found; all we did was squeeze.” he he is the sweetest and con’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him!!

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Dennis Patrushev | 
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