Kierstin and Bobby

Kierstin's Proposal in The Lighthouse at Lake Hefner

How We Met

Bobby and I first saw each other almost 6 years ago. It was shortly after I had transferred to the University of Oklahoma. I was working out at the gym on campus when I saw a gym employee walk past me. We briefly made eye contact, and I thought he was so cute. I continued to see him at the gym during my workouts and we always caught each other’s eye, but we never spoke. Towards the end of the fall semester, I was out on Campus Corner with some of my friends. As we were walking down the street, I saw him in the window of a restaurant with his friends. My friends and I continued down the street towards our destination. A few minutes after we arrived, I felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around and was face to face with the cute guy from the gym. He had seen me walk by with my friends and decided it was time we officially meet. Bobby introduced himself and we exchanged numbers, but it would still be a few years before we met again. On my 24th birthday in 2015, Bobby texted me to wish me a happy birthday. From that point forward, we kept in communication and often talked about meeting for coffee. We planned to meet a couple of times before it actually happened. The first time we planned to meet, I got sick and had to cancel. The second time, Bobby had a job interview and he had to cancel. Finally, on June 23, 2015 it was going to happen; nothing was getting in the way. I was so nervous that day at work that I told my friends I was thinking of backing out, but they convinced me I should go. So, I did, and it was the best decision I ever made! We connected instantly, and spent the rest of the night talking, laughing and getting to know each other. Bobby continued to plan dates for us that week. Our next date was yoga in the park followed by pizza and beer. On our third date, he took me to an outdoor concert in Norman, and then snuck me into the empty OU football stadium where we had our first kiss in the south end zone under the stars.

Proposal Ideas The Lighthouse at Lake Hefner

Wedding Proposal Ideas in The Lighthouse at Lake Hefner

We laugh about it now because we mutually agree that the first cup of coffee we had together was probably the worst coffee either one of us had ever had, but we each silently struggled through it because we were enjoying each other’s company so much. Now, I couldn’t be more excited to marry the cute guy from the gym!

How He Asked

A couple of weeks before Bobby proposed, our friend, Katie, reached out to us to ask if we would be willing to set up a couple’s photo shoot with her because she wanted to expand her portfolio. This was something we had been asked to do by other photographer friends in the past, so it didn’t seem out of the ordinary to me. On top of that, Bobby acted like he didn’t want to do it because it was in the middle of July in Oklahoma, and it would be too hot outside. We set up the shoot for a few days after our two-year anniversary despite Bobby’s protests. A very small part of me hoped Bobby might propose during this shoot, but everyone was doing everything they could to throw me off, and it worked. I also knew that Bobby wanted to talk to both my dad and my mom to ask for their blessings before he proposed, and I was almost positive that he hadn’t done that. So, going into the photo shoot I had put the thought of a proposal out of my mind. After work on Friday, we met Katie downtown. We started taking pictures in a field with the Oklahoma City skyline in the background, and then moved over to the farmers market and took pictures among the flowers and produce for a while. Our last location was the lighthouse on Lake Hefner. Before we got there, we stopped at a gas station to get some water and for me to change into a different dress. While I was in the bathroom changing, Bobby handed the ring box off to Katie to hold until it was time for the proposal.

We got to Lake Hefner, and waited for the people around the lighthouse to clear out before starting. After about 10 or 15 minutes of taking pictures, Katie stood me several feet in front of Bobby. She told us that she was going to take silhouette photos, and to hang tight while she adjusted the lighting. While I was waiting, she handed the ring box back to Bobby. I still had not put any of it together, and was just waiting patiently. Finally, she told me to turn around, and that’s when I saw Bobby down on one knee with the ring.

Seeing him down on one knee was such a shock, and it was the most surreal, emotional moment of my life. I asked, “Are you serious?” He said, “Yes. I love you so much, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?” I dropped to my knees, kissed him and, of course, said yes! As we stood, I could hear cheering from the patio behind us. Bobby then told me that our friends and family had been waiting and watching since we arrived at the lake. They all rushed out to meet us by the lighthouse. We were so surrounded by love and support; the feeling was absolutely incredible. I found out that everyone had known about the proposal for weeks without letting me know a word of it. I also found out that Bobby had secretly met with both of my parents in the weeks leading up to the proposal to ask for their blessings.

The rest of the night was spent at Hefner Grill, where we had reservations, celebrating with laughter, tears and hugs. Being able to share such a special moment with our family and friends made an already perfect moment even better.

Special Thanks

Katie Pickens | 
Photographer