Kate and Jack

Kate and Jack's Engagement in Britannia Pub, Santa Monica, CA

How We Met

We met playing softball, then first chatted at a post-scrimmage BBQ in May of 2011. I noticed the guy in the Yankees hat had a faint Chicago accent and I was confused…and intrigued. I thought I was quite impressive, once I learned he was indeed a huge baseball fan, talking about the great sleepers I had picked up that year on my fantasy team, but alas…crickets. No exchange of numbers, no social media add…nothing. I ran into him again a few months later at another softball scrimmage, he was very generous helping load my injured friend’s bike into the back of my car so I could drive her home. She even commented how cute and nice he was and I told her I had already struck out there, but she was welcome to try her own luck! It finally took a close friend who was determined for this to happen to arrange a setup. She came to me at the end of the summer saying she was going to organize a group to go to a game when the Yankees were scheduled to play the Angels in Anaheim the weekend of September 11th, asking if I was in. I said of course I would go – wouldn’t miss it! unbeknownst to me, she had the same conversation with Jack. The ‘group’ ended up being this friend and her boyfriend at the time (now husband) and the two of us. I figured others had flaked – it’s LA after all. Jack I think was a little more savvy as to what was really going on. We had a great time at the game, continued the night with some karaoke (another shared favorite pastime for both of us) and talked late into the evening in my car before heading home. We made plans to do karaoke the following week and the rest is history. Needless to say there has been a lot of baseball and a lot of karaoke ever since!

Marriage Proposal Ideas in Britannia Pub, Santa Monica, CA

Engagement Proposal Ideas in Britannia Pub, Santa Monica, CA

How He Asked

I didn’t know it at the time, but Jack woke up the morning of his birthday, April 6th, 2017 thinking “today is the day”! As he got in the shower he had no ring, no plan, nothing. He texted our friend to ask where he had gotten his wife’s ring and had an answer by the time he got out. He then texted two of my friends asking if they had time that day to meet him at the jewelry store. He took a meeting he had scheduled for work and then went off to look at rings. We were planning to go to karaoke that night and had sent a facebook event to friends who might want to join. We were then heading to Chicago the following morning to celebrate Jack’s birthday and watch the Cubs raise the world series banner at Wrigley Field for the first time in 108 years. Needless to say, the trip to Chicago was the big birthday celebration, but I had planned to somehow secretly bring cupcakes to the karaoke bar that night without Jack noticing. We would be going separately anyway, because I had to teach a yoga class right before. Meanwhile I had no idea the surprise was on me. With my two friends assisting he chose a ring, somehow managed to get the setting with the right stone same-day and then contacted our friend who runs the karaoke to help with the planning. The game plan was for him to put in a request for us to sing a duet we have done several times before. This time however, there would be ‘technical difficulties’ with the second mic right before we were supposed to sing, and he had arranged for an audience plant to yell “speech!” while we were waiting for the mic to be ‘fixed’! I had no idea what was really going on, kept interrupting the speech and still had no idea there was a master plan even when one of my favorite songs “Jersey Girl” by Bruce Springsteen started playing in the background. In any event eventually he got down on one knee, produced the ring and I was shocked. The best part was it was all caught on film by one of our many friends present. It was truly an amazing night!

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Special Thanks

Debra Zelenka | 
Introduced us, helped pick the ring
Ann & Brendan Kelly | 
Brendan pointed Jack in the direction of the nearest jewelry store, Ann took many pics and video that evening!
Starr Light
Planning