Heather and Mac

How We Met

We met when we were both students at Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick. It was Halloween Weekend (exactly 5 years prior to the proposal), and I (Heather) had gone to a party with a couple of girlfriends. I was dressed up as Rosie the Riveter, and after the party when we headed down to the local  bar (a fine establishment known to all fellow Mounties as Uncle Larry’s – or Club L), we ran into a group of guys from the basketball team. My best friend Olivia who was with me that night was their team trainer that year, so we began chatting as a group when I spotted Mac across the bar. Despite the fact that he was clearly ‘too-cool for school’ since he was not dressed up for Halloween, I was instantly drawn to him, and when we finally met a few minutes later, there was an instant spark. For the next few days, we were texting on and off. I still remember how nervous I was in those early days … Overthinking every single text message and analyzing every single one of his. Finally, after about a week, we finally got together in person and from that point forward we were basically attached at this hip. It’s hard to place an exact date on the day we became ‘official’ boyfriend and girlfriend, because we dove into the relationship headfirst and very quickly. I’m sure our friends thought we had absolutely lost our minds (and maybe they were right!) but evidently, the heart knows what it wants, and in our case, it turned out to be right!

How He Asked

For the past couple of years we’ve been discussing both marriage and buying a home together in great detail. I’ve been resistant to buy a house without having a ring on my finger, but when we found a listing that we both loved and it was also a great deal, I decided I could compromise and we went ahead and purchased the home. I was so excited about the closing on October 27th, but a little part of me was still really wishing for that proposal. The day before closing, October 26th, also happened to be the 5 year anniversary of the first time we met. To celebrate, Mac made reservations at a nice restaurant in town  … Or so he told me. We came home from work and got ready for dinner, and headed out, but before going to dinner, I told him we had to stop at the bookstore first. I am good friends with the book store owner in town, and am a part of the book club. She had messaged me earlier in the day inviting me to stop by and look at a couple of books she had just got in, and asked that I come by around 6:00 PM. This was a pretty typical activity for us, so I didn’t think twice.

Before I go any further, I have to explain … The store is a special place for me, as my life long love of books is something I’ve been able to share there with other like minded women since moving to town. It’s where I’ve made some wonderful friends, and been able to truly feel like I am a part of a community. This is important to me, because I moved to Ontario a month after my mom passed away a few years ago. I moved to be with Mac after he graduated from University, but it was a really tough adjustment at first. Between moving several provinces away from where I grew up and dealing with the grief of the sudden loss of my mom, it was a very difficult couple of years when I first arrived. But just over a year ago, we moved to Cobourg (where we live now), and I fell in love with the town and the culture here. The bookstore has been a big part of that, and it’s been an important part of my healing process as I continue to handle my grief. While Mac is not an avid reader himself, he still listens to my endless rants about the latest books I’ve read, and waits patiently as I browse the store for hours trying to choose my next one. Needless to say, he understands how special this place is to me.

So we pull into the parking lot, and head into the store where I expect to see Sandra at the desk. Instead, I’m greeted by dimmed lights, and a row lit candles. At first I was confused… But then it hit me. I turned around and Mac was down on one knee. He gave me the most perfect speech proposing, and of course I said yes! After sliding the ring on my finger, we went to the back of the store where there were rose petals everywhere and a huge bouquet for me. More candles were lit, and two glasses of champagne already poured. Some of my favourite books were on display, and the moment could not have been more perfect! After a few moments of pure bliss, Mac texted Sandra, who was hiding out back to let her know to come in and we thanked her endlessly, before heading off to share the news with our families and friends.

Special Thanks

Sandra Benne
Planning